If you have been married for any real length of time, you
have learned to live harmoniously for the most part, right? If you haven’t
then, stop reading right now, as you have a lot to learn about long term
relationships and this will not help you with that.
As a certified spouse, I probably would describe myself as handsome,
fairly predictable, and not all that hard to live with and would get “that
look” from my bride, especially if I rendered this buffoonish (baboonish?) depiction
of myself in her favorite company, namely her BFF’s, known as her Yah yah’s.
They are a close knit group and once a quarter they meet for
inspirational devotions and fellowship and to pray for their spouses and
friends – her words, not mine. I suspect
their friends get a free pass (read Indulgences) and their mates the real
scrutiny (again, I am simply speculating here).
I call it a surfeiting food fest with copious amounts of profoundly
righteous gossip, but that I guess is open for interpretation (read downright
objection). I reckon they tell their Yah yah’s everything about their husbands
that needs correcting and after an intoxicating amount of fattening foods and
homemade sweets; they get down to the serious business of interceding for their
hell-bound spouse’s aberrant souls, especially me most likely. Now here’s the
coup de grâce, they then exchange gifts, consisting of interesting junk none of
them would personally buy. Like the kings visiting the baby Jesus, I presume,
but I may be off on that aspect, like all my other observations of the married
fairer sex.
Now I must assert that I have hundreds of good points, but
usually am in the dog house over something and that may have happened three
days ago or longer. Who knows? I surely don’t and that’s the truth. I generate
fodder for the quarterly Sabbatical like a spewing wood chipper at the hands of
the people who trim trees for the power company. The truth is it is because I
am a man. There. I said it. Those of us that enter into a contract of blissful
holy matrimony are doomed from that unspecified time following the honeymoon
until death do us part or the wife finally has had enough and kicks us to the
curb.
Thank the good Lord we may possibly be redeemed by our
devote Yah yah’s through much caloric intersession and well-meaning scrutiny
and exhaustive confession.
The intricate female brain’s upward spiral in matrimony
starts shortly after the honeymoon with her barren wardrobe and it will never
get truly stocked. The honey-do list is four leagues long and after each
laborious task is checked off, two more are penciled in after it. This is not
only one of the hidden and sacrosanct statutes buried in the sacred vows, but a
heinous conundrum that after nearly 40 years of marriage, still perplexes me. Why
is it women feel compelled to make lists of things for their husband to
accomplish, but the husband never has a single item on their list for the wife?
Not a single one.
The bathing area, tub, shower, and cabinets have forty-seven
thousand little bottles of various solutions and scents and I have a bar of
soap, a single container of shampoo and what us Southern boys call a warshrag.
I can deal with it until my tiny space get buried by all that stuff she simply
has to have! I was informed one day after making a mild and meek suggestion
that there may just be a possibility that there could be a little bit too much
there. “I am a woman and I need that stuff and besides, most of it was given to
me by my Yah-yah’s and you wouldn’t understand!”
Blam! She threw down the Yah-yah trump card, which
incidentally weighs close to an Armenian metric ton in reasoning and finality.
Like I’ve said, I’ve been married long enough to know when to yell calf-rope
and I backed away with both hands held high, but this brings us to the gist of
this column. I also know (believe) when to draw the line and I’ll explain.
I always have insisted that I have a green toothbrush and
she was free to explore the many colors of other teeth-cleaning color
combinations, but what do I find when I open the drawer? Two green toothbrushes and the second one is
hers! Blasphemy and by golly I threw up
the red flag (not literally mind you).
I marched right into the living room and demanded an
explanation. I mean this is an open
travesty of a written in stone rule that has been in place for almost 4
decades. “Oh, I got that free at Doctor
Platt’s office the other day, mine is in the other drawer. Rats, out-foxed again. Oh Lord, is there
still hope for us married men?
7 comments:
Enjoyed the article Bert.
From one husband of many years to another,I feel it necessary to pass on a little advice.
Once you figure your spouse out, she resets completely.
The wisest thing to do is play the hand you are dealt & enjoy the game.
ha ha,
Fred
DDC: Another great, truthful column this morning in The Baytown Sun. Ohhhh the humanity!!!!!
Surrender to Love every moment. It only wants to Bless.
There are many wives like me who will tell you that we would fly at top speed past our Yah Yah's to get to our husbands side. Thank you, those loving husbands, who can relish us flexing our 'girlie muscles' loving us all the more.
Mimsy: Hahaha!
Bert, going along with your article in the Sun, you do know when the honeymoon is really over don't you?
It's when she comes in and poops while you're shaving.
HAPPY NEW YEAR AND KEEP THE ARTICLES COMING!!
JIMMY
It's almost funny sometimes how men and women figure out how to get along. Bob and I each claim a bathroom and if I use his I have to put his seat back up. Enjoyed the read...Debi
Sandi White: Profound. I will see that Dennis reads this and takes notes.
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